A Photographer’s Guide to Planning an Awesome Wedding

Intro

Welcome to my photographer’s guide to planning an awesome wedding. Read it. Love it. Share it with friends. Leave me a comment at the bottom with any questions or thoughts. To readers in the LGBTQ community and folks who use non-binary pronouns, note that I use the words bride and groom because I haven’t found an easy gender-neutral alternative. Love is love. People should be able to marry who they want.

Epic Images of Couple embracing in Point Reyes

Step 1. Find someone to love.
Step 2. Ask them to marry you.
Step 3. Pick a place to get married.
Step 4. Plan an awesome wedding.
Step 5. Get married and live happily ever after.

Where?

Step one, after you have found your partner and you both have said yes to getting married, is figuring out where you are going to have your wedding. Besides the commercial online guides (Here Comes the Guide, The Knot, Wedding Wire, etc), check out photographers’ blogs for location ideas. Once you have figured where you are going to get married, everything else is optional. Since you are reading this, I assume you are in the process of planning a kick-ass wedding to celebrate your love. Keep reading.

Ask For Help.

Even simple weddings are a big undertaking. Don’t take it all on yourself. Let other people help you. Ask friends who they hired for their weddings. Ask your photographer for their vendor list. This is a great place to find florists, DJs, caterers, and other great wedding professionals all in one place. Narrow your options and live longer. Focus on big things that matter, and don’t worry about the little things that won’t be missed if you don’t get to them (life lesson). Don’t sweat the small stuff. Having shot over 150 weddings, I know there are simple things you can do to improve your wedding. Read on and enjoy less stress while planning an awesome wedding.

A Well Thought Out Timeline

A well thought out timeline will help keep your day running smoothly, reduce stress, and make for better pictures. It can also be the backbone of planning your wedding. It doesn’t need to be complicated. There should be enough time to photograph the key story elements of the day, get the essential posed portraits, and give you lots of time to spend with your friends and family. When drafting a timeline, I like to use the ceremony as a starting point and work in either direction from there. When deciding on your ceremony time, make sure to take into consideration the sunset.

Sample Timeline (This is Gold)

The Morning – Hair and makeup is usually happening for anyone having hair and makeup done. The bride (if there is a bride) should have her hair styled in this window of time.
1-2 Bride gets makeup done and the groom gets dressed
2-2:30 Bride gets dressed and the couple does first look
2:30-3:30 Wedding party and immediate family pictures
3:30-4 Buffer – guests arrive, and wedding party chills before the ceremony.
4-4:30 Ceremony
4:30-5:30 Cocktails
5:15-5:30 Couple portraits… which can go over a little while guests transition to dinner
5:30-7 Dinner and speeches
7-7:30 First dances (if any) and cake cutting (or pie, or whatever)
8:15 Sunset
8:10-8:20 Sunset couple portraits
7:30-10 Open dancing and whatever else you have planned.

*If there is travel in between venues, this will need to be taken into consideration. This timeline works as a good starting point for 90% of the standard-sized (75-150 guests) weddings that I shoot.

Getting Ready

This is a sweet, casual time of the day that I love. Go for a walk, do some yoga, eat a donut. You will get ready with your partner or separately. If you have a wedding party, they will also be getting ready. If you are doing a lot of stuff yourself, you will be running around wondering how you are going to get everything done. Everything will fall into place. Hopefully your friends and family are there to support you. If you have a wedding planner, they will be helping a lot. After you are dressed you will do a first look (if you so choose) and will gather your immediate family and wedding party for posed pictures. I will help fix your bridesmaid’s zipper, and will help you button your dress, but don’t ask me how to tie a bow tie.

For more examples of getting ready photos, check out my gallery.

Stay Close Together

It is best when the couple gets ready very close to each other, whether it be in the same room or spaces within a two-minute walk of each other. It should be easy for one photographer to bounce back and forth between the getting ready locations and capture all the key action. I love it when couples get ready together. Consider that as an option.

Hair Before Makeup

Hair should be done before makeup. I usually don’t photograph hair getting done, because it is not as photographically interesting as makeup. If there are several people getting hair and makeup, the bride should have her makeup done last.  This allows for the least amount of time to elapse between the end of getting ready and the beginning of the ceremony.

Eat Now, Eat Later, Eat Often

Make sure to eat breakfast and lunch. If you are ordering lunch, consider asking your photographer if they would like food as well. Keep your calorie count up. Putting on and planning an awesome wedding is a lot of work.

First Look, Wedding Party, and Family Portraits

Do a first look and take posed immediate family and wedding party pictures before the ceremony.  After the ceremony, people want to eat, drink, and celebrate. When you do posed-pictures before the ceremony, you will have more time in your day to spend with your guests. Doing immediate family photos before the ceremony also has the benefit of getting your families all in one place so you don’t have to worry about where they are for the beginning of the ceremony.

First Look

At least in the Bay Area, doing a first look before the ceremony has become pretty standard. I am a fan and an early adopter. There is little downside, but a big upside advantage. You get twice the excitement and buy yourself a bunch of time in your day. The first look doesn’t need to be a super orchestrated event. It is a special moment where you see your partner for the first time on your wedding day in their finery. Once you have seen each other, take wedding party and family pictures.

Immediate Family and Wedding Party Portraits

Take off your sunglasses and put them out of the way (not on your head). Spit out your gum during portraits. Keep your keys, wallet, phone, and other bulky things out of your front pockets, put them in your back pocket or jacket pocket. Keep it simple. You don’t need a shot list. Do both immediate families + couple, individual immediate families + couple, whole wedding party + couple, and each member of the couple with their respective attendants. If you have grandparents, take portraits with them as well. In order to keep this quick and easy, choose a place that is close by, relatively flat, and evenly lit. I do basic “stand in a line” shots, and if there is time, I get creative. Once you have the essentials, you can add other portraits if desired.

For more examples of wedding party and immediate family portraits, check out my gallery.

The Ceremony

Ceremonies tend to be relatively short these days. People do readings or they don’t. People hire officiants or have their friends or family members officiate their weddings. I shot one wedding where the couple had no officiant. However you structure your ceremony, there are some little adjustments that you can make to improve the experience for yourself and your guests while making it easier to photograph. Planning an awesome wedding ceremony doesn’t have to be complicated.

Little adjustments to improve your ceremony

Have guests move forward to fill open seats.

Make sure people can hear you.

Remind your officiant to tell guests to sit after the bride enters.

Set ceremony seating in a semi-circle rather than a square or rectangle.

Ask officiant to move to one side for the kiss.

If your hair covers half of your face, make sure that the other half is facing your guests.

Ask people to turn off their cell phones during the ceremony.

Face your guests while the officiant is speaking…

and turn to your partner for the ring exchange and vows.

Have the sun on your face or at back.

Position your ceremony so that you are either fully backlit by the sun or fully lit by the sun. Avoid having one person in shade and the other in the sun. Make sure you are in total shade if you are getting married under a tree. Dappled sunlight through the trees looks funky in pictures.

For more examples of ceremony photos, check out my gallery.

The Cocktail Hour

The cocktail hour is the time in the day when people get to relax, have a bite, and enjoy a drink and a good story with old and new friends. You have done your immediate family pictures and wedding-party pictures and enjoy a drink, a bite to eat, and revel in the fact that you just married the person you love. Some couples take a few minutes after the ceremony to themselves. If you are going to do a big group shot, directly after the ceremony is the best time to do that. Getting a picture of everyone at your wedding in one photo is incredibly efficient photography, and it is fun.

Couple Photos at the End of Cocktail Hour

If your cocktail hour is well before sunset, consider stepping away toward the end for some couple photos. It is better to do two short sessions of couple shots than one long one. Sometimes there is only time for one, so it is nice to steal away when you can. I always find that stepping away from the party to take pictures gives couples a moment to recharge and take a breath.

Everyone in One Photo

Extended family pictures can happen during the cocktail hour or reception. It is best when this happens organically. Have one family member gather the group, have the photographer take the picture, and everyone goes back to the party. But really, the best way to get a picture of all the guests at your wedding is to take one giant group picture right after the ceremony. Get that shit done so you can get back to your party.

Photo Booth

If you have a family that loves to pose for the camera and wants to do a ton of group pictures, consider getting a photo booth or photo station. Photo booths are a great way to get more pictures of more people at your wedding, and they are fun.  People can take as many group photos as they want, and while your photographer focuses on candid moments.

For more examples of my photo station in action, check out my gallery.

Dinner

That glorious time of the day when we get to eat amazing food. There are usually toasts, speeches, and lots of laughter. People are feeling more relaxed and comfortable. When people start putting food in their mouth, I usually stop taking pictures, sit down for a moment, and have a bite to eat myself. The wedding couple should eat.

Eat

Yes, make sure to eat.  No really. Eat. Don’t get hangry.  The bride and groom should eat at the beginning of dinner service so that they will be done by the time toasts begin.

Seating

I love it when couples sit with their family and friends. While doing long tables and family-style dinner is not always an option, it is the configuration that I like the most. It tends to feel intimate and highlights the community feel. The sweetheart table is not my favorite. No matter what seating arrangement you decide on, one thing you can do to improve pictures is to make sure there is not a tall bouquet in front of the couple.

Feed Your Photographer

Feed your photographer at the beginning of service when you are eating.  Brain function slows, creativity stops, and in desperation, your photographer may start taking pictures of people stuffing their face with a leg of lamb, and grilled squash.  Some caterers like to feed the vendors after all the guests have been served. This is lame. Check-in with your caterer to make sure that they know you want your photographer to eat toward the beginning of dinner. During certain times of the year, sunset falls during dinner time. If the bride, groom, and photographer have all eaten, it is easy to steal away for sunset pics.

Toasts, Cake Cutting, and Dancing

The time of the day when people will be saying sweet things about the wedding couple. It is customary for parents and some members of the wedding party to speak. At least one person will thank people who traveled from far away to come to the wedding. After toasts come dessert and dancing. The couple may engage in the loveable tradition of cutting some sort of dessert and feeding one another.

Schedule Your Toasts

In some countries, it is customary to open the floor to anyone who wants to speak. Lots of toasts and very long dinners are usual.  Since this is not typically the case in the United States, I highly recommend scheduling toasts. This is normally how it happens, but I still shoot weddings from time to time, where people spontaneously open the floor to anyone who wants to speak. Don’t let your drunk uncle give a 10-minute unprepared speech. Unless you are going for the Swedish model of wedding toasts; schedule your toast.

Keep Toasts Close to the Couple

It is helpful if the people giving the toasts or speeches stand next to the couple so that they can all be in one photo. Images with the couple in the same shot as the person toasting also feel more intimate.

Don’t Eat During Toasts (Eat Before)

Make sure that the couple has finished eating by the time the toasts begin. Nobody wants pictures of themselves mid-bite. Also, make sure that there is not a big bunch of flowers in front of the couple.

Cake Cutting is Still Cool

Cake cutting seems like such a funny old tradition, but it has succeeded in remaining part of most of the weddings I shoot. As far as old traditions, I think it is a fun one. There doesn’t need to be any cake smashing for it to make a great picture. It is customary for the couple to cut a slice of cake together, put it on a plate, and then feed each other a bite of said cake. Pro tip: stand behind the cake facing guests when cutting dessert.

No Red Lasers

Green and red lasers will not make your guests dance more, but it will make dance floor pics look a little funny. Thankfully these light shows are not as prevalent as they were a couple of years ago. If your DJ offers, maybe ask them to NOT use the green and red lasers.

Dim the Lights.

A brightly lit dance floor to make people feel like it is closing time. Dim the lights.  Get people in the mood. Your photographer should be able to get great dance floor pics with their own lights (flashes) and any available light.

Keep the Dance Floor Small

A small dance floor with 50 people will feel like a rockin’ party. A big dance floor with the same number of people may feel less bumpin’. Consolidate the energy.

Trust Your DJ

Find a DJ you trust and whose music and mixes you dig.  Many DJs ask for a list of must-have songs and do not play songs.  Of course, you want to share that with the DJ, but give them the flexibility to feel the vibe of your guests and play the music that they think will keep the dance floor packed.

For more examples of rad party photos, check out my gallery.

A Few More Tips

Be yourself.

Just because other people have done something a certain way, does not mean that you need to or should. Make your wedding your own.

Ditch the pacifier.

Love the Earth. Say “no” to plastic water bottles.

Use large water containers and paper cups instead of plastic water bottles and cups. Single-use water bottles and cups are unattractive and not good for the environment.  Leave them out of your wedding. Please. Give your guests cups or glasses that they can put their name on and take home at the end of the wedding.

Replace orange extension cords with black ones.

If you are throwing a country or camping wedding, the chances are good you will be running power for lights, speakers, or something else. Use black extension cords instead of orange ones.

Final Words

If you want to throw a kick-ass wedding that looks great and runs smoothly; ask for help. Planning an awesome wedding is no small feat. Weddings have so many moving parts. Get a wedding planner, ask friends to assist, see if your vendors have helpful resources. Most people like to be helpful. I have touched on just a handful of things that you can do to easily improve the look and feel of your wedding. Undoubtedly, I have missed some things and ignored some others, but hopefully, this will give you ideas and help make your wedding planning easier and less stressful.

If you found these tips useful, please share this guide. If you want some Pinterest optimized images, you can choose from the pictures below. Thanks for reading!

Me? What did I do?

When planning my own wedding, I broke most of the rules. You can check out my wedding here.

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